Where Are We Going?

I_love_my_trans_child_I have serious concerns for America, for the human race, and even for the Church. Where are we headed?

In the western world we’ve discovered eastern thought, and in the East, Christianity is growing by leaps and bounds. That gives me hope, it really does. But what I see in my own country, not so much.

There’s the political mess we’re in this election cycle. Please God, by His mercy, we might still have a candidate who will not make the mess worse, but if things continue to go as they are, the likelihood is that we’ll have either a fascist, a socialist or a possible felon for President. Happy days.

Of course, what’s dominating our thought—other than music and TV and movies and movie stars and sports, is bathrooms! Behind the issue is the acceptance of the transgender community which is a niche in the whole LGBT coalition.

The really troubling aspect, to me, is not that men will be in women’s bathrooms or women in men’s (though I tend to think not so many women-changed-to men will actually be a problem in the men’s bathrooms since they aren’t going to be shoulder to shoulder with guys at the urinal). Rather it’s the randomness of our rational for these “I feel like a woman, therefore I am a woman” identity issues.

Some of the same people who cry loudly that a person’s gender identity is how they feel inside will also cry loudly that evolution is real science and that supporting creation is “junk science.” They’ll also cry loudly that global warming is a Real Thing, with Scientific Proof! And that God does not exist (because we can’t see him).

The randomness comes from the selective use of physical evidence. Is not a person’s genitalia scientific evidence of gender? Why do some people trust in science when it comes to an unprovable theory like evolution but completely ignore it when it comes to gender identity?

The gender identity issue is not a small thing. It attacks the fundamentals of humanity. Scripture tells us that God created humans, male and female. But we, in our superior, I’m-better-than-god mindset think we can improve on what he made, if we don’t like it. Instead of teaching young people that God “don’t make no junk,” we have been sending out the word that girls have to be skinnier, men more muscular, white people tanner, nobody with gray hair (unless you’re eighty, and then only if you want to stop the hassle and expense of coloring your hair) or bald, and on and on. In other words, accepting who we are as we came out of the womb is pretty much unheard of.

That same kind of thinking has simply expanded. First, we did plastic surgery to fix the features we didn’t like, and now it’s hormone therapy and sex-transformation surgery.

This is not solving a problem. It’s creating a bigger one. Kids don’t know who they are, to the point that they no longer know what bathroom to use. And we give them the answer that we’ll simply let them choose or we’ll make a neutral bathroom for those who don’t feel like they fit in the silly binary bathrooms we have now.

My heart breaks for kids today who don’t know who they are. Their gender identity search is simply a symptom of their larger confusion. They don’t know where they belong or if they belong.

Kids—people—have always needed to belong, needed to feel secure and loved, needed to have purpose. Parents ought to be the first place where children have those needs met, but because parents aren’t perfect, they won’t be met perfectly. Friends meet those needs to a lesser degree, and spouses perhaps more so. But none can do so perfectly, and many a marriage goes through rocky times simply because one spouse or the other had expectations that their needs would be perfectly met, only to wake up to reality.

As a result of all the confusion, kids today seem to be growing up like weeds. Well, honey, what do you want to wear today to preschool? Well, honey, what gender do you want to be when you go to middle school?

Really, parents?

Where are you?

Parents don’t parent any more because they’ve been brainwashed into believing that there are no absolutes. So if Johnny doesn’t want to share his toys, well, they are his and we can’t violate what he wants to do (because apparently one of the few absolutes is that we are to allow everyone to do what they want, unless they’re bent on harming others physically; emotionally has yet to be determined).

So instead of Johnny learning to think of others and not just himself, he has parents who validate his selfishness. He never learns impulse control or empathy for others. He simply buys into the philosophy of bullies everywhere: if I want it, I take it.

We are a confused people because we have lost our moral compass. God said, do this one thing I’m telling you to do, and we can’t even manage that. Why? Because we want to be the boss. We don’t want to be second, even to God. We want what we want when we want it, and God isn’t going to stop us. We’ll simply believe him out of existence.

If things were left up to us, it would be hopeless. But praise God, He has come to rescue us from the dominion of darkness.

But when the kindness of God our Savior and His love for mankind appeared, He saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out upon us richly through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that being justified by His grace we would be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life. (Titus 3:4-7, emphasis mine)

So where are we going? God has made the way for us through Jesus Christ our Savior to have eternal life. But to claim the gift of salvation we have to be clear about our identity: we are sinners coming to God, not on the basis of anything we’ve done but completely dependent upon what Christ has done for us. When we get that part of our identity cleared up, the rest will start to fall into place.


  1. I agree with the ridiculousness of people only believing in science when it benefits them. So stupid. But you made a comment about children growing up not knowing who they are because we’re giving them too much freedom. I don’t know where you’ve been, but childhood isn’t always easy. Adolescence definitely isn’t easy. It’s even harder if a child feels trapped into a societal standard that they don’t agree with. Of course there are some people out there who, for lack of a better term, “switch genders” for fun- there will always be people who just don’t want to conform to anything. But on the other hand, there are people who are genuinely transgender. Our society told them this was disgusting and wrong for so long that people commit suicide over this. That’s not a joke and not it’s not easy. Think of what they had to have been going through to get to that point.


    • Grayson, thanks for your comment. The problem is, society is the one telling us that kids are committing suicide over not being accepted as transgender, but that’s only the party line, so to speak. Might they not be committing suicide because they are rebelling against God’s natural law? I know this is anecdotal, but a friend who works in public schools related an instance when a young man changed gender, was nominated by his classmates as homecoming queen, and won. A week later, he expressed deep depression and suicide tendencies. That was not about his not being accepted!

      Children don’t feel “trapped by societal standards.” They don’t even know what societal standards are when they are in preschool or primary school. They have to be taught societal standards, and they have to be taught that they’re “trapped” by them. Sure, kids can identify with someone of the opposite sex, even emulate them. We had “tom boys” for years and years before anyone thought up the idea of “transgender.” But it’s not hard to convince someone of gender reality if they look at the science staring them in the mirror day after day.

      I seriously don’t understand why anyone who believes in science would discount the biology of our bodies over against the undetermined emotions. I just scanned an article that pointed out biological gender is not just revealed in our genitalia. The Y chromosome means men and women have different hearts and livers and lungs, as doctors have known since we started transplanting organs.

      Gender is real, and it has nothing to do with our perceptions of who we are. In reality, our perceptions need to match with reality. A forty year old man is not seven. A white women is not African-American. A six-foot-tall woman is not four feet tall. These are simply realities, and no matter what a person’s perception, the realities remain.

      We are doing a huge disservice to kids to imply that gender is up for grabs, as if it is divorced from biology. Some doctors have even called transgender therapy and/or surgery, child abuse.



  2. I recently read an interview with a psychiatrist who unabashedly classifies gender confusion as a mental illness. The professionals in the field recognize that there is a problem, but it is not that a boy is trapped in a girl’s body. The problem is the confusion. Whoever has a boy’s body is a boy. If he thinks he is a girl, he needs counsrling, not accommodation.


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