Yes, it’s back. I’m a fan. I saw the very first show of Survivor some ten or so years ago when it was a summer fill-in that broke out as one of the most popular game shows of all time. Yes, game shows. It isn’t “reality” TV by any stretch of the imagination. It is all about competing against a group of strangers by trying to outwit, outplay, and outlast them.
The twist, of course, is that you are also living side-by-side with these same people, and to a certain extend, are dependent upon them for food, shelter, fire, water, and victories so you don’t have to face the dreaded “Tribal Council” where you might be voted out of the game.
This new season that started Wednesday pits the men against the women, but both teams are camping on the same beach, so they are neighbors. Because of an accident that sent one of the women out of the game with a broken wrist, the men were declared the winners of the first challenge, winning the reward — flint so they could start fire. They had been given a choice. They were in the lead when the girl hurt herself and the game was stopped, hence, by rule they were the winners, but they could choose to play it out and win “fair and square.” They chose to take the win in hand.
But here’s the amazing thing: the women were shocked by this! They thought for sure the men would do the gentlemanly thing and let the game play out.
As if!! My first thought was, Do none of those women have brothers? Are they so clueless about the competitive nature of the men who sign up to play Survivor? I also thought, How entitled of them. Not only did they think the men should have let the game play, they then thought the guys should share fire with them when they got back to camp. They even tried to steal some embers during the night but couldn’t keep the coals alive.
Lest you think too badly of the women, the men pulled the first unethical trick. When they reached their launch spot, they had 60 seconds to unload a truck of whatever gear they thought they could use. One of the women grabbed an ax, and one of the guys preceded to steal it. Let’s say the guys showed their true colors right there — they were playing a no-holds-barred game. But later in camp the women were still expecting chivalry.
During nearly every season, someone makes a point of playing the game with integrity and someone else gets their feelings hurt when they get stabbed in the back — betrayed by tribe mates who promised to take them all the way to the end. Some years the one who engineers the betrayals is considered a mastermind and ends up winning the million dollar prize. Other seasons, the leader of all the manipulation is considered a villain and despised for using those he betrayed.
The whole thing is an interesting study in human nature. Who believes whom, who leads, who follows, who works, who whines. One thing I noticed in the last season: when a leader talks “trust” and “honor,” then pulls the strings to betray someone, the contempt others feel for him is greater.
Which makes me think of the Church and today’s society. When we broadcast the good news of God’s love and forgiveness, people will listen — who, after all, doesn’t want love and forgiveness? But when we who lift high the banner of Christ, turn around and behave in an unloving, unforgiving manner to our fellow Christians in front of the watching world, to our neighbors, co-workers, even our enemies, the contempt spewed upon us is great.
Deservedly so. Christ Himself told the parable of the forgiven servant who turned around and would not forgive, and He concluded by giving a dire warning.
And his lord, moved with anger, handed him over to the torturers until he should repay all that was owed him. My heavenly Father will also do the same to you, if each of you does not forgive his brother from your heart.” (Matt 18:34-35)
Not that our forgiving others earns us forgiveness, but our having been forgiven causes us to be so grateful, we want to pass on what we have received.
And if we don’t? Chances are we’ve missed the essence of forgiveness. Like the Survivor contestants who turn against one who talks honor but plays a disreputable game, those who watch a professing Christian proclaim forgiveness, only to turn around and withhold it, will despise him and what he stands for. Apparently God will side with them.